The right person at the wrong time!

"The most fucked up way the universe works, sometime, is letting you meet the right person at the wrong time."

-Anonymous

It's in human nature to fall in love. After one story ends with a lover, time heals the wounds from the break up and eventually, we move on. But the question that's often asked more than sometimes is "How long is this time for the heart to heal?" The only feasible answer to that which I am sure doesn't require any genius to derive this is 'it depends from person to person'.

Since the first time I ever dated, I've met so many interests (love) in my life. I am actually one of those whom people can say doesn't have a type. Truth be told, that can't be further from the truth. I do have a type and that type is also my ultimate standard. I call it 'a personality that matches mine' because if I have to analyze all my ex boyfriends and jot down what was it about them that attracted me, the only common thing which I'd find will have to be something that has to do with their personality.

I like someone whom I have great chemistry with. I am an extrovert with an MBTI of an ENTP personality. I like to pick people's brains and sometimes, even if I do not agree with them, I still do it in a sarcastic way just so I know the legitimacy of their opinion. That being said, someone who can keep up with mt whirlwind-of-a-conversation are more likely to be attractive for me.

I just got out of a relationship. It was a painful process and it had to happen right before my birthday. I was so bitter towards the world and it was getting so hard on my friends and people around me because I was moping almost everywhere I went. Like every wound, time starts kicking in with its process. I started to accept the breakup and opened my mind to fengshui  my life. I was so open to conversations. I'd chat up my old friends whom I hadn't chatted with and I went to the extent of chatting with new people.

That's where things got a little interesting. Someone had a faint interest in me and started to direct message me on instagram. I don't want to lie or beat around the bush with this one but he kind of caught me off-guard with the extreme persuasiveness of his flirty texts to which my reply made him assume that I was single! I was a little bit harsh at the beginning. Though I did not shook him off immediately with cold words (because I liked the attention he gave me) I wasn't holding back the hasty assumption that he was a player. I still believe deep down that I may not be the only one whom he is interested in this manner. But the relevance of him with the title? Well, have doing my own investigation I found out that he believes the same traditional principles that I uphold in life. I was hasty to judge him because he seem like a sincere person who has immense respect and love for his parents and relatives.

All this to me right now is a distraction. Coping with my post breakup wounds. It wouldn't be fair if I return the interest he shows right. Today one of his texts said "I can tell you have pride and never want to wish me (good morning) first". Well, I am healing. Rebounds are something I have left and I have become someone who respects people's integrity and much as I value mine. Even though I have doubts that his interests are genuine, that doesn't give me the right to play with the whole situation too right?

Sometimes, in life, interesting people come. But more often than sometimes, they will come at the wrong time. For someone who is done with playing childish cupid games I have learn that the best way to deal with this is to not think of it at all. If the person asks why you have become less interested (that is if you showed some interest before) then let them know it's because you are doing them a favor. These things don't always play out right and if you stubbornly strut it out, someone will be bound to get hurt. So respect your conscience and always, always respect others' for what goes around always comes back around.